Couples Therapy
“IN ORDER FOR US TO TRULY CONNECT WITH SOMEONE, WE HAVE TO KNOCK DOWN THE WALLS, STRIP OFF THE ARMOR, AND ALLOW OURSELVES TO BE EMOTIONALLY NAKED. A SECURE RELATIONSHIP IS BUILT ON TRUST; ON THE NOTION THAT YOU ARE SHOWING THIS PERSON ALL OF YOU, BOTH GOOD AND BAD, AND TRUSTING THAT THEY WILL LOVE YOU ANYWAY.”
- DYNA TUCKER
Deciding to begin couples therapy can be very scary.
Chances are your relationship has been stuck in a cycle of dysfunction as constant arguments, long stretches of silence where you and your partner go days, or even weeks, without speaking to one another.
You’re becoming roommates - simply coexisting in the same space but not really having meaningful interactions. While most people may equate the loss of intimacy to simply not having enough sex, it is so much more. It’s the absence of hello and goodbye-kisses, hugs, and those slight touches that lets your partner know you are thinking of them and still desire them.
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Now you are searching for a way to make it work.
Trying to create the ‘perfect relationship’ only creates tension and conflict in your relationship. You’re committed to doing the work necessary to make the changes you want to see in your life, but you’re feeling stuck.
We’re all familiar with Einstein’s definition of insanity…You know… how it’s “doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” Constantly having the same conversations over and over with no resolution or constantly promising each other to do better but not really knowing how to or what that looks like accomplishes nothing.
Our process is heavily based on each partner taking accountability and responsibility for their own actions and how their behaviors have affected the relationship.
By encouraging each individual to do their part in restoring the broken bond, the couple can meet in the middle and get rid of the pattern of negative behaviors that cause division.
WE WILL ALWAYS HAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP'S BEST INTEREST AT HEART.
But… full disclosure: You might not always like us, and the sessions will not always end on a pleasant note.
This is because our mission is to help you and your partner have some tough conversations with firm but loving guidance that will often reveal shortcomings on both sides.
But… if you trust the process and do the work, we can help you and your partner recommit to each other, identify and discontinue negative patterns of behavior, and develop critical conflict resolution skills that will help you and your partner work through your issues more efficiently.
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One of the most important things we help couples realize is that staying together is a choice.
Here’s a fact to consider: If both of you are electing to not only stay together, but also seek help for your partnership, you obviously have a connection that neither of you is eager to sever.